communication

I feel that we have a serious communication issue.

When we talked about a problem, the discussion was to find out a solution. It was not to find out who did right or who did wrong.

Please, we need a solution to fix the problem, not to think about who did wrong in the past.

People usually think about who is RIGHT or WRONG , and try to defend for oneself. But this does not help to solve the problem.

Somehow, our behaviour is not about right or wrong, it could be good or bad.
Is that good to do this? how bad will it be? any bad impact? etc.


I know that my sister is in a very difficult situation. She has no support in her place. If I were staying with her, I would able to help her to look at the issue and prevent the situation becomes wrose like it is now. But I am thousands miles away from her now. I feel sad. I am unhappy to see the current situation.